by J.Q. Tomanek | Source: http://catholiclane.com
This is the first rule of a Catholic man. Be a
saint and create the most fertile ground for your spouse to be a saint. Share your
This is one of the hardest tests. You have eaten a good dinner. The sweet tray is
brought to your table. She says she does not want any because she is full. Your slice of warm
brownie over vanilla ice cream arrives. She suddenly wants half. Give her more than that.
A clean sink
. I do not care how dirty a kitchen is, if you close the cabinet doors
and clean the dishes it always looks 100% better. I know you did not leave the doors open. She does
not want to hear she did either. Just close them and offer a prayer for the great reminder of all
the little things that are flawed in your own person. Sex.
She deserves better than
being treated as an object. She is a lady and a woman. Keep her away from poisons that can harm her
body. Yes, the pill is a poison.
Workout with her.
Yes, it takes longer. Life is not
about being as efficient as possible.
Open her door.
It opens her heart and yours.
Take out the trash
. Yes that disgusting, smelly, rotten, and overflowing soul. Go to
Confession regularly. Encourage your sons to treat your wife like a queen.
relationship is very important. Defend her
. If someone threatens her life, step up
and die defending her. It is what Adam should have done. This includes those little deaths that
destroy a person?s good name like gossip. Your friends do not want to hear about your wife?s faults
and you should be embarrassed for even mentioning them. Stand your ground.
against her, but with her. She may have emotions that soar up and down. Be a rock of consideration
and strength that comforts her even in what appears to men as trivial. They are important to her;
they should be important to you. She is beautiful.
She wants to hear you say it
often. Just a note.
Buy a small notebook, and leave a small note every morning. Tell
her something new that you love about her. Remind her about special moments that meant a lot to you.
Thank her for being a strong woman. Ask her forgiveness for your faults. Draw her a small picture.
Look up a great quote.
This article originally appeared on Ignitum and is used with
permission. J.Q. Tomanek lives in the country of Texas with his wife Denise, a Southern
Belle from Trinidad and Tobago, and his three children. He holds two graduate degrees from Our Lady
of the Lake University in San Antonio, an MBA and Master of Science in Organizational Leadership,
and a Bachelor of Arts degree from Franciscan University of Steubenville. Having taught for five
years in Catholic education, he now works in the construction industry in Victoria, TX. He is a
parishioner of Holy Family of Joseph, Mary, and Jesus Parish in the Diocese of