The Seven Essential Goals of a Godly Woman
Cheryl Dickow looks at the everyday goals of women who long to know, love and serve God.
by Cheryl Dickow | Source: Catholic.net
A Godly Woman is a woman who seeks to know, love and serve God, to live joyfully and in abundant grace and strength. There are seven essential goals to which a Godly Woman aspires:
1. Know that God is Love and Mirror that Love to Others
2. Set Priorities
3. Trust God, His Timing and His Wisdom
5. Watch Your Words
6. Let Go
7. Be a Daughter of the King
The first goal of a Godly Woman: know that God is Love and mirror that Love to others
To be “godly” doesn’t mean to aspire to be a “God” but, rather, to act in a way that reflects God’s love. God’s love is often called “Agape Love.” It is a love that could send a most beloved Son to the world for crucifixion. It is completely selfless and cannot be earned, bought, traded, or sold. Agape love is unconditional love. God’s love towards us is not a feeling but fully a commitment supported by the term “unconditional.” As any of us can attest, without the commitment aspect of love in our human relationships, there would be no endurance of time.
The second goal of a Godly Woman: set priorities
We know that ought to find time for God, but few of us take the time to make a goal of setting the right priorities. We juggle, we fret, we get into a groove and we coast, all the while wanting, needing, and understanding how important our relationship with God is and that it should be our first priority. But we don’t put God “on our calendar” as readily as we do our kids’ sports events and other commitments.
Because nothing can be accomplished without God, your time with Him takes precedence over all else. For some, this is a relief because it definitely takes precedence over dusting. For others this is a bit of a “bummer” because time with God definitely takes precedence over Facebook, Twitter, and the Internet—even if we think we are on “good sites that enrich our time with God.”
Once you make your commitment to be honest with yourself about your schedule and look at it through the eyes of God, you will find your life much more manageable and God-honoring.
The third goal of a Godly Woman: trust in God, His timing and His Wisdom
Fear is the opposite of trust. It is a four-letter word and has no real place in a Christian’s vocabulary because of its implication of one’s lack of trust in God. Fear is a four letter word that creates an atmosphere where evil lives.
The only way to combat fear is to make a conscientious point of trusting God. Trusting God is being able to say, “I live to love, honor, and serve Him and all that He has in store for me is completely right for me.”
Trust allows us to release feelings of jealousy, anxiety, rage, or hurt. Trust translates into the realization that God’s plan is far superior than anything we could come up with on our own.
In trusting God we recognize the wisdom of what He does—and does not do—and know that His timing is always perfect for our own life and circumstances.
The fourth goal of a Godly Woman: persevere
Perseverance is simply an understanding that in all we do, we do for God. We keep on keepin’ on, as the saying goes.
Perseverance is taking on an attitude of diligence in whatever circumstances a woman finds herself. It doesn’t rely on a handwritten note from God that says, “Right now I would like you to finish your college education.” Perseverance is in doing whatever you do with the full and conscience understanding that all glory goes to God. It is in recognizing that there are some very basic behaviors that we are called to display, regardless of situation. We should always persevere towards kindness, love, compassion and other virtuous behaviors. We don’t need to know God’s plan to know this is what we ought to do. Perseverance is the way in which we show God, on a daily basis, that our strength comes from Him and with Him we can do whatever He is calling us to do, even (or especially) when we do not have the answers.
The fifth goal of a Godly Woman: watch your words
Scripture is replete with examples of why kind words should accompany kind actions and, when all else fails, kind words are the best action we often have at our disposal. But what I want to share is one of my favorite stories about speaking kindly. I read this so long ago that I do not remember the source but will suffice it to say that this beautiful story must be generations old with a lesson that will stay with your forever…
Many hundreds of years ago, in a Jewish village, was a man who had spoken quite poorly to his neighbor and then, as time went by, even more viciously about this neighbor to others. One day this man began to feel regret over his unkind words and went to see his rabbi. He walked all day to the synagogue and all the while his regret grew. Finally, he arrived at the temple and found the Rabbi.
“Rabbouni, I have made a terrible mistake. I have spoken terribly to my neighbor and made things worse by saying bad things about my neighbor’s character to others. What should I do?”
The rabbi thought for a while and then said, “You have to go back to your home and take your bed pillow and walk to the edge of our village where I want you to open up the pillow and shake the feathers out into the wind. When you have done this, please come back to see me.”
Well, the man did not understand why the rabbi made this odd request but did just as he was told. It took him all night to walk back to his home and get his pillow. It took him many more hours to walk to the edge of the village and open his pillow up and shake the feathers from inside of it out into the wind. The wind quickly lapped up the feathers and spread them farther than the eye could see. Once he was satisfied that he had done what the rabbi had asked, the man returned to the synagogue.
Exhausted, but pleased that he had followed the rabbi’s instructions perfectly, the man said, “Rabbouni, I have done what you asked. I have spent many hours walking from one place to another and have released all the feathers of my pillow out into the winds. They have been taken far and wide.”
“Perfect,” the rabbi responded. “Now go gather the feathers back.”
To which the man gasped. “Gather them back!?! Why, that is impossible to do. How can you ask such a thing?”
Revealing great wisdom and understanding the rabbi replied, “And so it is with your words. Once uttered, they are impossible to retrieve.”
The sixth goal of a Godly Woman: letting go when necessary
Godly Women understand that giving the present over to the past robs God of the work that could be done for His kingdom, today. Work we are all called to do regardless of what our past holds.
In prayer, and through whatever means necessary, we are able to learn lessons from our past. This is to say we don’t forgo it but, rather, let go of it. It makes us who we are today. There is no one among us who is not wounded in some way or another. Yes, some more so than others and yet it is in our “woundedness” that we can fully embrace what Christ offers: hope and healing. If we stay rooted in the past, we say “no thanks” to the balm of the Cross.
As Women of God we choose to let go so that we can move on and be instruments for His glory. In so doing, we are able to step towards Him who heals us and lay our hurts and angers and “baggage” at the foot of the Cross.
The seventh goal of a Godly Woman: remember that you are a daughter of the King
JPII, in his discourse Mulieris Dignitatem, speaks of a “feminine genius” that we all have as daughters of the King. Godly Women embrace this role.
Accepting who we are as daughters of the King is a noble endeavor. Most importantly it involves understanding how to serve God in whatever capacity you find yourself. Additionally, but just as importantly, it involves understanding how differently you have been created from man but loving how God will use each, man and woman, for His plan.
A Godly Woman spends time developing her God-given gifts and talents and never pursuing a man’s role just for the sake of the pursuit.
Godly Women are Daughters of the King and fill myriad roles with faith and hope and trust. As John Paul II says, Jesus spoke to women and they understood the things of God. A Daughter of the King has an inherent worth that she does well to embrace and enjoy. She does not relinquish her status as Princess but, rather, receives it graciously as a gift and lives accordingly.
Note: This excerpt has been taken from The Seven Essential Goals of a Godly Woman by Cheryl Dickow and is reprinted with permission. Cheryl can be contacted at [email protected]
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