Catholic convert and adoptive mother Heidi Hess Saxton shares the way in which we can all know Mary through her many titles.
Learning about Mary through her titles.
Saxton's book reveals the special way in which Mary embraces each of us in our
vocations as wives, mothers, and friends.
The celebration of women and motherhood is most
beautifully portrayed in a special book by Catholic author and speaker Heidi Hess Saxton. Saxton, a
convert to the Catholic faith and adoptive mother herself, exquisitely reveals the relationship
between Mary and us, her adopted children in, Behold Your Mother: Mary Stories and Reflections
from a Catholic Convert.
Beginning with three short personal stories that set
the stage for the tone of the book which is one of love, honor, and a clear under
standing of Mary’s role in guiding us all to Christ,
Saxton gives us the perfect book for time spent in quiet contemplation or when we are in need of a
gentle reminder of the power we have in calling upon Christ. It was my good fortune to work with
Heidi on this book and then interview Heidi about her work. Cheryl:
love your book, Behold Your Mother: Mary Stories and Reflections from a Catholic Convert
and thank you for sharing it with us. It is clearly a work of love and commitment to sharing
Mary’s role in our own personal journey with Christ. Please give us a little background on
your inspiration to write this book. Heidi:
When I converted to
Catholicism in 1994 from the Evangelical Christian tradition, I had no desire whatsoever to get to
know Jesus’ mother. She was just that – his mother, someone who makes an appearance in
the Christmas crèche each year, then goes back into the box. Praying to Mary made no sense to
me (though I did ask my friends to pray for me from time to time). I figured, why go to her when I
have always gone straight to Jesus myself?
As I continued to grow in the faith, however,
I began to change. There were two events that facilitated this change, which I describe in the book:
a broken heart, and becoming a mother myself. And yet, I suspect that both these experiences had
this affect on me because, as a new Catholic, I had been forced to return to a childlike kind of
faith. More than ever, I had a sense that I was a child of God. And it was in that context that I
came to experience Mary as truly my adopted spiritual mother.
Sometimes women feel
overwhelmed by their role as caregiver and while we love to look at Mary as an “ideal,”
which can sometimes seem daunting, how can we also look to her as just “another mom?”
I remember those first weeks after receiving three children into our home (the oldest
was later placed with another family), with little sleep and no time for little luxuries like a
sit-down dinner or a shower. On one occasion, I watched helplessly as one of the children flushed a
sock down the toilet while I was bathing the baby. I think that was the breaking point.
“Help!” I cried. “You were the perfect mother, and had one perfect Son. I am and I
have neither of those things. Pray for me!”
Outwardly, nothing changed. The sock
did not miraculously resurface, the bathroom was still wall-to-wall water and kids. But inside, I
was calmer. I no longer wanted to send the culprit down after the sock.
It was studying
the Gospel passages about Mary, and imagining the “back story” behind the Gospel
account, that led me to the “real” Mary – the woman behind the Man. So much of her
life was hidden – as is ours. But she was – and is – first and foremost, human.
Taking care of Jesus (and possibly Joseph’s children from a previous marriage as well) was no
different from raising any other child. The same mess. The same worry. The same choice to offer each
moment back to God. When we keep that image clearly in mind, talking to Mary becomes no different
from calling up Mom on the phone (except doesn’t spoil the grandkids). Cheryl
: I was struck by the realization that this is the perfect
“card” for Mother’s Day because it can be cherished all year long. I also see this
book as the ideal accompaniment to Eucharistic Adoration. I actually have a copy in my purse because
it is such a great “pocket size.” Is there a particular way you recommend the book be
: Most people I’ve talked to read it from cover to
cover when they first get it, then go back and read it again at a more deliberate pace (especially
the second half of the book containing the reflections). It’s perfect for a “Mommy time
out”; I enjoy pouring myself a cup of tea and spending some quiet time just letting my mind
explore the images and scenes the book describes. It’s a particularly good resource to have on
hand for those who know of someone who is exploring the Church, particularly those who come from
another Christian tradition. (My Baptist sister said she stayed up all night reading it.) The
reflections could also work during holy hours or while saying the Rosary … but my favorite
way to engage Mary is through momentary ponderings, not formal prayers.
The book has a
blogspot (http://beholdyourmotherbook.blogspot.com/) where you invite readers to share their
stories. Please tell us what your hopes are for that blog.
The subtitle of the blog
– “A Bouquet of Love to Mary from Her Children” – really says it all. As
I’ve been exploring a variety of Catholic blogs, I’ve been struck by how often Mary
appears not as “Queen of Heaven” but as a true spiritual mother, mentor and friend.
“Behold Your Mother” is intended to help those who have an intellectual
understanding of what the Church teaches about Mary, but who have a volitional or emotional barrier
to overcome, often because of their faith background. The reason it’s important to overcome
these barriers is very simple: You can know someone only so well if you are on nodding terms from
across the room. A child gets to know her mother by climbing up on her lap, or sitting beside her
and chatting. We can do that by turning our hearts toward her at regular intervals during the day.
Is there anything else you would like to share with others? Heidi:
I’d like to encourage your readers not to feel rushed or
pressured where Mary is concern. Her motherhood does not depend on our response. It took several
years before I was really comfortable talking to Mary, and even now I don’t pray the Rosary
every day (just as I don’t talk to my earthly mother on the phone every day). When I have a
specific intention, my petitions become more “formal,” but most of the time I just talk
to her as I would any friend.
Every relationship goes through its chapters and its
seasons. Different images, titles, and or quotes about Mary may appeal to you at different times of
your life. The important thing to keep in mind is that Mary is God’s gift to us – Jesus
gave her to us from the Cross, to be mother of the whole Church. When we honor Mary, we honor her
Son because all true Marian devotion always leads to Christ.