Staying Detached while Discerning?
The only strength we have is in God's grace. That means that you have to bring his grace into your life actively, depend absolutely on it, and then not be afraid since Christ is the first one to want you to be faithful.
by Fr. Anthony Bannon, LC | Source:
Q. Dear Fr. Anthony,
At the moment I am a 23 year old woman working in a full time job. My dream is to join a religious order and to give my life fully to God. I am hoping that in January next year that I will stay with the Missionaries of Charity for a come-and-see and take God's will from there. In the meantime I feel I am struggling with trying not to get caught up in this world and go back to a lifestyle that I once had. I am weak and I would like some advice in how I can detach myself from the secularism that surrounds me on a daily basis.
Thank you kindly for your time and God bless.
A. Dear Anne,
We are all weak, and always weak. The only strength we have is in God's grace. That means that you have to bring his grace into your life actively, depend absolutely on it, and then not be afraid since Christ is the first one to want you to be faithful. This means that you have to make prayer a constant part of your life. Set times aside for it each day, try to go to Mass as frequently as you can and receive Holy Communion. Find a good confessor so you can use the sacrament frequently in order to grow in your life of grace and virtue. Keep close to Mary by praying the rosary each day. Once you take care of prayer, examine the other things you fill your day with. Eliminate the trivial (TV, pointless socializing, any time-wasters you detect) and have some time each day for substantial reading and study of your faith. Then see what you can do for others. Bring the corporal works of charity into your life. (Remember Mother Theresa's phrase, 'do it now'). You should especially make sure to develop good friendships. Look for some other young women who give priority to their faith, and that you can do things together with.
Hope this helps. God bless.
- Fr. Anthony
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