Am I Doing the Right Thing?
I have been thinking about a religious vocation for quite some time now. In fact, it has been three years. I have been praying, and I began talking about this with friends and some of the sisters at my parish.
by Fr. Anthony Bannon, LC | Source:
Q. Dear Fr. Anthony,
I have been thinking about a religious vocation for quite some time now. In fact, it has been three years. I have been praying, and I began talking about this with friends and some of the sisters at my parish. However, I still do not know what the best thing for me to do is. I am currently in my first year of college. I go to a community college so I am not far from family, friends, and my parish, but I will be transferring after my second year, though. But, after speaking with all of these people, I am still not sure if I am doing the right thing. My parents want to support me, but it is very hard for them. I am the only child. I feel guilty at times, but I feel drawn to give my life to God. How will I know that this is, without a doubt, the best thing to do? Thanks.
A. Dear Valerie,
It seems to me that some very important elements are already in place as regards your vocation. You feel drawn to religious life; it is not a passing fad, for it has lasted three years; you have been praying and inquiring, your parents are extremely generous, even though you are an only child and it is hard on them; and they want to support you. I would imagine you have also been trying to develop your relationship with God.
There is another question you need to ask yourself…, and answer: of the different ways of giving yourself to God (religious orders, consecrated life in a Movement...), is there any that has caught your attention or attracted you? Is there any person you have seen and thought, “Maybe God wants me to be like her”? If there is, I would think you now need to visit them and start talking to them about their particular life and charism, their requirements for entrance, etc. This will give you much more of an answer as to what to do now than your own speculation.
One note of caution, though. You seem to be looking for mathematical evidence, an absolute sign of what is best to do. You won’t get one. The most you will get is that you use your head, your faith and your heart, and when you put it all together it isn’t as crazy as it seems, but it still takes faith.
- Fr. Anthony
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