A Giftless Wedding
What marriage is all about!
by Mark Thelen, LC | Source:
Noelia and Terrence were getting married. This was going to be one of the biggest moments of their lives. They had to decide on all the details of the ceremony: the place, the songs, her dress, his suit, attendants, transportation, flowers, invitations, and everything else.
Then there was the reception to consider: location, menu, music, entertainment, silverware, dishes, and a thousand other all-too-important details.
What about the honeymoon? Where were they going? What would they bring? Where would they stay?
And then there were the gifts! They had to get ready for a new life together. They needed lots of news things! Or did they?
When these two decided to get married, there was something different. As they explained to their guests in the invitation and even posted on a website specifically for the purpose, “When we decided to get married, we asked ourselves what to do about gifts… We already had a house furnished with all we needed… freezer, washer, dryer, and so on. Why just accumulate more things?” So they decided not to ask for anything, at least for themselves.
First they thought about giving a gift to each one of the guests that attended, but they finally came up the idea of donating everything to a children’s hospital. As they say on their webpage:
We are getting married, but we don’t need more things. We do not need a place to live, furniture, money for our honeymoon… What can you give us? We want you to give us something special, something that has a lot to do with us and something we enjoy a lot: giving. How? We want you to give a gift to someone else, to someone who needs it, to totally change someone else’s life.
They weren’t the only generous ones, however; their initiative brought many others to do the same, including people that they didn’t even know, and they raised tens of thousands of dollars for the children’s hospital. Gifts came from guests, friends of guests, and anonymous donors, who heard about the initiative.
Noelia and Terrence understand what marriage is all about – giving as they say themselves. And it’s not accumulating goods: money, possessions, not even a spouse or happiness. This often happen, but marriage is about the gift of self to others: children and those around us, a generous giving that brings more to do the same. This past October fourteenth, they started off their life together not by receiving but by giving generously.
- Information taken from www.lanacion.com.ar (13 October 2007).
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