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CHRISTIAN
ANTHROPOLOGY

The Nuptial Significance of the Body
by Donald DeMarco, Ph.D.
The 18th century skeptic, François Marie Arouet, better known as Voltaire, believed that organized religion was a social evil that should be curtailed in every manner possible. Concerning the Old Testament, he commented, in characteristically acerbic style, “This is what fools have written, what imbeciles comment, what rogues teach, and what young children are made to learn by heart. And the scholar who is filled with indignation and who is irritated by the most abominable absurdities that have ever disgraced human nature, is called blasphemer!”1

Fully confidant that Scripture had little future, Votaire predicted that “In a hundred years the Bible will be a forgotten book found only in museums.”2 When those hundred years had elapsed, the very home in which he had made his fearless prediction was occupied by the Geneva Bible Society. The word of God endures, while the words of men become grist for comedy.

Nature, God’s handiwork, also endures while political correctness quietly passes into irrelevancy. In the words of Cicero, “Custom will never conquer nature, for she remains unconquerable” (Numquam naturam mos vinceret; et enim ea semper.). Nonetheless, it has become most fashionable in recent decades to assert that the natural differences between the sexes are largely, if not entirely, the result of social conditioning.

Steven Goldberg, a sociology professor at City College in New York, produced a reasonable and well-researched study on the natural differences between the sexes. Although it was ultimately received with wide acclaim, 55 publishers saw fit to reject the manuscript a total of 69 times, an unparalleled number of rejections that won The Inevitability of Patriarchy a privileged place in the Guinness Book of Records.

According to Goldberg, “Sex is the single most decisive determinant of personal identity; it is the first thing we notice about another person and the last thing we forget.”3 Yet, when he examined introductory sociology books, he found that thirty-six of thirty-eight began their treatment on sex-roles with a discussion of Margaret Mead’s work as having demonstrated that the distinction between the sexes has a cultural basis. This is a curious claim since Mead herself denies that her research has disproved the natural differences between the sexes.4 In fact, she is most emphatic about the unconquerable and deeply significant natural differences that do distinguish the sexes. In Male and Female (which shares the same publisher with Goldberg’s book), she states: “If any human society—large or small, simple or complex, based on the most rudimentary hunting and fishing, or on the whole elaborate interchange of manufactured products—is to survive, it must have a pattern of social life that comes to terms with the differences between the sexes.” 5

Despite what Dr. Mead states, she is nonetheless a paradigm for egregious misinterpretation. In Sex and Temperament in Three Primitive Societies, Mead describes three New Guinea tribes, all of which displayed variations on the traditional sex roles. Two feminist writers, Scanzoni and Hardesty, find this remarkably convincing proof that sex roles are based entirely on cultural conditioning. What they fail to acknowledge, however, is that all three tribes were completely ineffectual in dealing with their environment and were on the verge of extinction when Mead studied them. Her own conclusion was that their decline was directly related to the loss of the definitive masculine role, a point that the feminist authors conveniently omitted.6

“The differences between the sexes,” writes sociologist George Gilder, “are the single most important fact of human society. The drive to deny them—in the name of women’s liberation, marital openness, sexual equality—must be one of the most quixotic crusades in the history of the species.”7 It is a misguided attempt to politicize nature and turn “incarnate humanity” into “metaphysical ‘humanism’.”8 Individual men and women, however, despite the prevailing ideologies that deny real sexual differences, will not find much comfort in dealing with each other, not as incarnate realities, but as political fictions.

Every society, no matter how primitive, throughout human history has recognized the natural difference between the sexes and has accorded that recognition a high degree of significance. There are cultural influences that are brought to bear on the men and women, to be sure. But one of the clearest manifestations of such cultural conditioning, ironically, is the view that culture is the primary determinant of the differences between the sexes. It is this very “intellectual” or “ideological” notion that is formed largely by cultural conditioning, rather than sexual differences themselves.

St. Thomas Aquinas once remarked that he made prudent use of his study time by learning from two sources that could not lie: Scripture and nature. In the contemporary world, both of these time-honored and reliable sources have been placed under deep suspicion. In their place, reign the fragile and ephemeral contrivances of politics and ideology.

John Paul II’s Theology of the Body is a concerted attempt to return the discussion of the differences between the sexes to a solid and authoritative basis. He uses Genesis as his primary text to explain four fundamental points:

    1. that masculinity and femininity are constituent features of the person;
    2. that the human body has a nuptial significance and is created by God with the loving union of man and woman in mind;
    3. that man and woman enter upon this union freely and offer themselves to each other as mutual gifts;
    4. that sin can subvert the authentic relationship of the sexes, which was intended to be a gift, reducing it to a form of exploitation or dominance.
  1. The body is not an “attribute” of the person, something that a person has. It is an essential and integral feature of the whole person. It is something he is.9 This is made evident when Genesis 2:23 states of the first parents, that “they become one flesh.” “Masculinity and femininity,” writes John Paul, “express the dual aspect of man’s somatic constitution. ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh’.”10
  2. Genesis 2:25 testifies that in their original state, the first partners were naked without shame. “This significant confrontation,” writes the Holy Father, “enabled us to speak of the revelation and at the same time the discovery of the ‘nuptial’ meaning of the body in the mystery of creation.”11 This nuptial significance refers both to the specific, God-created capacity that man and woman have for becoming ‘two-in-one-flesh’ but also their capacity to have children. Through their intimate union with each other, they offer “their humanity to the blessing of fertility, namely, ‘procreation’.”12
  3. The specifically distinct and complementary features of masculinity and femininity allow the man and the woman to make special gifts of themselves to each other. When the Yahwist writer in Genesis 2:18 said, “It is not good that man should be alone,” “he affirmed,” as John Paul comments, “that ‘alone,’ man [both the woman as well as the man] does not completely realize this essence [as a person]. He realizes it only by existing ‘with someone’ — and even more deeply and completely — by existing ‘for someone’.”13 Man and woman choose to offer themselves to each other as gifts in the freedom of their mutual love.14
  4. As a result of sin, Adam and Eve looked upon each other for the first time with shame. At this moment, they no longer beheld each other with that “innocence of the heart”15 which characterized their original state. They now experienced shame because each began to view the other as a mere “object for me.”16 This lustful misappropriation of the other is the very antithesis of gift. Shame was experienced in the realization that one was tempted to exploit the very person he was created to love.
The Theology of the Body offers a coherent image of masculinity and femininity. It enjoys a remarkable consistency, not only with Vatican II and Church teaching in general, but also with psychology, philosophy, anthropology, and the natural law. The reason for this lies in the simple fact that the Theology of the Body is centered on truth rather than trend, and takes an approach that is broad and trans-cultural.

Much of contemporary thought concerning the sexes is either narrowed by ideology, distorted by emotion, fractionalized by politics, or homogenized by various economic and social developments. None of these factors honor the paradoxical blend of distinctiveness and complementarity that is inherent in the authentic relationship between the sexes. Moreover, today’s wide acceptance of contraception, sterilization, and abortion, is essentially incompatible with the inviolate unity of conjugal intimacy and procreation.

John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, recognizing that the engendered person is incarnate, provides a bulwark against the sexually neutered and abstract humanism that certain global agencies have adopted. In The Gender Agenda, Dale O’Leary states that one of the main objectives of the United Nations at both the Cairo and Beijing conferences on women was “the elimination of the differences between men and women.”17 Marxism had the same objective. Yet it is corporeal masculinity and femininity that is fundamentally real, not the various ideologies of abstract humanism. There is a realism, therefore, to the Pope’s approach that is not shared by ideological movements.

By honoring this incarnate realism of the sexes, their complementary unity, their procreative involvement in the mystery of creation, and the loving gift of themselves that they offer each other, the Pope has provided a rich, balanced, and profound treatment of the sexes that the world urgently needs, though it lacks the insight to provide by itself. The Theology of the Body, therefore, is a gift in the highest sense, one that is vitally needed yet could not be obtained by the beneficiary himself.


  1. Cited in James Hitchcock, What is Humanism? When Humanism Became Secular and How It Is Changing Our World (Ann Arbor, MI: Servant Books, 1982), p. 38.
  2. Bennett Cerf, The Life of the Party (New York, NY: Random House, 1956), p. 130.
  3. Steven Goldberg, The Inevitability of Patriarchy (New York, NY: William Morrow, 1973), p. 229.
  4. Robert H. Bork, Slouching Toward Gomorrah: Modern Liberalism and American Politics (New York, NY: HarperCollins, 1997), p. 211.
  5. Margaret Mead, Male and Female: A Study of the Sexes in a Changing World (New York, NY: William Morrow, 1949), p. 173.
  6. Letha Scanzoni and Nancy Hardesty, All We’re Meant to Be: Biblical Feminism for Today (Ann Arbor, MI: Books on Demand, 1992).
  7. George Gilder, Sexual Suicide (New York, NY: Quadrangle Press, 1973), p. 59.
  8. Ibid.
  9. John Paul II, The Theology of the Body (Boston, MA: Pauline Books & Media, 1997), p. 49.
  10. Ibid., p. 49
  11. Ibid., p. 62.
  12. Ibid.
  13. Ibid., p. 60.
  14. Ibid., p. 63.
  15. Ibid., p. 70.
  16. Ibid.
  17. Dale O’Leary, The Gender Agenda (Lafayette, LA: Vital Issues Press, 1997), p. 207.

Dr. Donald DeMarco is a Professor of Philosophy at St. Jerome’s University in Canada.

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